Don't sound like much of a friend if you already explained how his actions make you feel. A true friend is hard to come by and once you find one it's worth an effort to keep them. If your blessed you may end up with more then one true friend that will always be there for you. He's not the one that will be there in 10 years for you. You should definately have a talk with her. Women have more power to control a situation than meets the eye. Women have started wars and I am sure have stop more then anyone knows. Be honest and up front with her. Worst thing is to hold it in and start acting weird yourself thinking she should now what upseting you. Make her understand how it make you uncomfortable. If she cares enough she will do what it takes to make you feel better. If she doesn't then get out of the relationship while you can. That spells trouble. Be confident, she is with you not him.

All the guys are giving some great advice, but a lathe is not much of replacement when you young. You'll understand how apealing a lathe and a garage is in tweenty years.


They probably ran off with the money and the lathe!

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Skellyo- I got a present for you... :lol: :lol: :lol:

Somehow I don't think she would appreciate a gift like that! At least not on the (third?) date! :rofl:

IMO, you need to talk to your freind (and the girl 2nd.)

You all are young (not an insult, just the way it is.) God knows what he is doing, maybe he doesn't even know. You talked to him, but you sounded like you were beating around the bush and being passive aggresive.

Be direct, firm and undeterred. Violence is immature, counter-productive and usually self-destructive, and may likely end the friendship. Tell him directly his actions toward her are inappropriate and are personally disrespectful to you. If he continues it, you will consider it a personal insult, and will be treated as such. That all you have to say. Leave the ball in his court and see what kind of friend he really is. Be sure to talk to him in person and have to look you in the eye.

His arguements back about you being defensive are from a position of weakness. He knows he's wrong, but is trying to undermine you mentally. Don't fall for it. If you are confident, brief and direct, you will dominate him mentally, he will feel like the DBag, and should backoff. You don't need to throw punches when mental clubs are so much more effective and long lasting. He needs a smack in the face, but a pat on the back too. EG. Suggest some other girls he should be BFFs with, just not yours. Maybe he doesn't know too many women (or just too inexperienced or shy,) but he should find another one to playdate. Redirect him by helping him find another. If done effectively he will repect, admire and defer to you. I would say its best to handle it privately and discretely to be most effective. If you embarass him publically he will be angry and resentful and may just try to undermine you more (and will burn the friendship.) The girl may also think you are a psycho...see below. Demanding respect requires you are willing to give it too. He'll appreciate your discretion later, and further proves to him your moral and mental superiority.

As far as the girl goes.... girls can be scared off pretty easy at that age (really any... but more so young) if you start acting possessive and controlling. A lot of sh!tty BFs go this way bc they do not know how to talk to and handle women. Plus, are you guys just dating for a little while? Sounds like it. If you start asking her 20 questions, and start looking like you are dictating who she can be friends with and what she can do, she will recoil fast if she's got any self-esteem. Just be cool and confident about it with her and handle your business w/ the friend off on the side. I would at most ask her "what's up w/ you and XXX?" [Perhaps I would throw in a "I would have liked to go to _____ ." to soften it a bit and add some guilt.] I'd accept what ever answer she gave (apart from "we're banging") w/o comment. All she needs to know at this point is that you noticed the situation. Leave it and deal with the friend and see how that shakes out for now. Just from that she may feel a bit guilty and back herself off as well.
Just be cool and don't overreact and you'll come out on top. At worst there are always other women. Don't be a psycho and chase them away bc you handled this situation poorly.

That is very funny, better than finding her another girl and a cup!

Was that Justin Timberlake in that vid?

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That sucks. The site will only allow access if you are in the USA. I also like the lathe idea. It may not replace the companionship that you get from a woman, but that machine will give you a lot of joy just learnikng how to use it. Men are proud of their TOOL:yipi:. If you want to go a little bit cheaper then just get another R/C vehicle and take out your frustrations on bashing with it. Like Hickoryhead eluded to women are never easy to figure out. Even when you think you have it all down, they change the game somehow. It is a great feeling when you find one who truly matches your good side.

Yeah thats Timberlake when he hosted SNL.

Finnster, you should write a book, this is gold. Maybe a good side job for you. I can think of a few different publishers that would print it.

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Thanks man that worked, and the premise of the video was very funny. I think that this approach would only work if she was someone that you are very close with, or she is a hoe. :rofl::yes::gasp:

lots of advise here, wow i'm surprised.

my first suggestion would have been to say don't ask a bunch of guys that play with rc cars about girls............lol.

I agree, with the direct approach. Only i would talk to them together and make it a surprise (neither one knows till a few minutes before) then they can't plan and you get honest answers

On a side note, if it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be and there will be a better opportunity down the road.

Yes, you are right, he should have hit up the flashlight lover's forum first...:rofl:

Well, he claims he isn't interested, just, being friendly. She's hasn't done anything with him, so I'm not really worried about that. Its just that he keeps trying. Its annoying if anything. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting or anything.

I already talked to her about and she said she also thought it would be a good idea to talk to him less. I just typed this on my iPod touch and it took me half an hour LOL. Back to class I suppose.

Set him up with her best friend and double date...