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Good luck Jerry. I wish the adults would realize the crap they stir is really affecting the children more than the adults they intend to hurt. This is a big life change you you and your wife for sure, but I think it's huge for the kids. When my father died of cancer, I know my life changed quite a bit.... similar but different situation.... I now have a mother and sister to care for. My sister is a sweetheart, but though older than I, will remain a young child for the rest of her life in terms of learning.

Nobody should talk bad about the kids mother now. Let the kids have just good memories and let mom rest in peace. Karma is a funny thing, and it's ever present. How we act and what we do always has karma. I am a firm believer in it.
cheers