Life Changing Events.

[pipeous]

Good luck Jerry. I wish the adults would realize the crap they stir is really affecting the children more than the adults they intend to hurt. This is a big life change you you and your wife for sure, but I think it's huge for the kids. When my father died of cancer, I know my life changed quite a bit.... similar but different situation.... I now have a mother and sister to care for. My sister is a sweetheart, but though older than I, will remain a young child for the rest of her life in terms of learning.

Nobody should talk bad about the kids mother now. Let the kids have just good memories and let mom rest in peace. Karma is a funny thing, and it's ever present. How we act and what we do always has karma. I am a firm believer in it.
cheers

[Hickoryhead]

Jerry,
We may not being seeing the whole situation but just from reading your posts for that last while I think your kids will be better than fine. Your a straight and level headed guy. It seems to me that having your kids will do wonders not only for the kids but for you and the wife. I know the joy my son brings to my life and you will now have 3 again. Way to go Dad!!

[JERRY2KONE]

Hey thanks for the vote of confidence Hicloryhead. We are both pretty wound up about all of this, and it has been a very long time coming. When she left with the kids 7 years ago I was devistated. I have missed my kids so much and they have grown and changed so much in that time, it has been very hard to not have them close to me. Now we have to start fresh and try to build the best relationship that we can. I sure hope to be able to share as much as I possibly can with the three of them so they can adjust and become not just good kids, but strong respectful young adults as well. I am lucky enough now to have a wife who is not just very loving. but extremely supportive of this situation. We spoke of this day back in 2003, before we were married, and We knew then that this day would come eventually.

I arrived in California last night and the funeral is this morning at 1030. The family is happy that I was able to make it in time for the services. Her husband is already stiring up trouble and making noise with the family about fighting for custody and suing me for support. I am just waiting for the emergency custody order to come from the court system in Florida where the jurisdiction is. Lord please give me strength to be humble. I have very little patients for stupid or ignorant people, and he fits that bill more than you could imagine. I will be back here for an update as things progress. Thanks again guys for the good words of support.

[JERRY2KONE]

Well the funeral was held yesterday for the EX and it was a very lovely event. I was very surprized afterwards when people I have never met came up to me with condolences and praise for me from information that she had shared with them about me. Everyone knew who I was and they were well aware that the children were about to move with us to Korea. there was scepitcisum about Korea, but most were very supportive and excited for the children begining a new life with their father.

The kids are doing ok considering the cercumstances, and we are allowing them to stay with family to finish the school year there, and then we will pick them up in July for our journey to the Asian community to begin our new lives together. There was alot of drama with those who live in the theatrical world of fantasy, but the general feel is that the children are going to the rightful place for their best interest, which is with me. This is only the begining of our journey and there are a lot of miles to cover before we are settled down in our new home. There is still chatter from a few family friends and family members of battles for custody, but we can only pray that they will come to their senses and leave well enough alone. I will be here for two weeks trying to get things settled for the kids and begin making our arrangements for their travels in the Fall. Life goes on.

[JERRY2KONE]

Hey guys I just wanted to stop in and share some info with you all. There is still a lot of drama going on behind the scenes here, but I feel much better knowing that I am able to be here to get things in order. I was supposed to head back to Brussels tomorrow, but all of the legal paperwork is not completed yet, and there are still people involved here that think they would be better sutied with custody of my children. Some people are just plain nuts. The one person that I was most worried about was the step father. It ends up that he is the one who is lending the most support in getting things done smoothly, and he has even been inspired to regain custody of his own daughter thorugh all of this.

It seems that the EX had one very close friend who managed to get her to sign a will under medication giving her control of her estate as well as custody of the kids. Of course I have priority in the sceme of things, but she is lying in wait for me to leave the area so she can launch her plan. We are signing over temporary custody to the family until the kids finish out the school year here for their own benefit, before moving them with us to Korea where they will attend an international school. Still I have to wait for the legal system to roll its very slow wheels of justice in order for me to regain sole custody of the children so that there is nothing anyone can do from that point on. What a mess.

All in all though things are going well and I am confident that this will all finish in the favor of the kids, & our new family. I have been going through counselling with the kids & they are now very excited about the changes going on in their lives. Losing their Mother is quite a shock, but they are doing well, and their mother's family is in full support of what we are doing here. We thank all of you for the words of support and advice. I will stop in again soon to update on the outcome. Have a great day guys & girls.

[JERRY2KONE]

Hey fellas. Well I returned home to Brussesl, Belgium yesterday morning after spending approx 6 weeks in the San Francisco area with my kids. I was honestly expecting things to be a lost worse then it turned out. There were a few people hell bent on casuing trouble for me up front, but once everyone actaully got to know me and what I am about opinions changed. You know how it is when two people split. He said She said. Well the EX had painted somewhat of a tainted picture of me to everyone in an attempt at trying to cover up her own short commings. Her husband thought I was some kind of nut job through the stories that were being told.

Anyway that has all changed now and their view of me is much better. I kept my cool through everything and managed to keep the piece between everyone involved in this. It turns out that most of the trouble was going on between her husband and the family and friends. So I was the golden child throughout this ordeal. My kids are doing well and now have a new perspective of their future with my wife and I. For now we have allowed the kids to stay in California with their grand parents so they can finish out the school year and grieve with all of their mothers family at their side. We will pick them up in July and move to Seoul, Korea with them for our next posting. Life is looking much better for them now and the family surrounding them is much more supportive towards the whole situation. Positive thinking promotes positive results. Life is good.

[JERRY2KONE]

Hey guys I just thought I would touch on this thread and update where we are in all of this. We finally received a court order for sole custody (this week) and we have departed from Brussels. We spent a few days in DC during the 4th holiday. We had to stop in Vegas for a few days for our final rest and relaxation as a couple, and now we are in San Francisco getting the kids ready for the move to Korea. The kids are doing great and they are so pumpped up about the changes. It is great to see them smiling again.