Random question about friends and girls.

[BP-Revo]

He aims her every night, texts her 24/7, and calls her too...

Idiot does NOT know when to give up.

For her birthday her sister and I planned out this whole elaborate scheme. I was to take her out to this vendor fair she wanted to go to, then I was to take her to dinner where her sister and a bunch of her friends were going to be waiting (as a surprise).

However, he wanted to take her to see a movie, alone. He told me that he was going to do this - didn't ask me, told me. I told him no he wasn't, cause it would screw up the plan her sister and I spent like a week and a half thinking up. He flips the hell out claiming that he thought of taking her to the movies before we thought of the plan, and that means he got first dibs on her. Its not like she ever chooses him anyway, but I'm waiting for the day where he gives her an ultimatum saying "him or me." Its obvious who she'd choose and I'd like to have her stick it in his face so he might figure it out.

She's too nice though...she feels bad so she doesn't ignore him completely and eventually responds to his texts.

[jhautz]

She needs to be the one to tell this guy it aint gonna happen and to quit it. Untill she puts it no uncertain terms he aint gonna get it.

Why would you even invite this ass munch to the party anyway? I wouldnt even have told him about it. Just made the plans with her and when he asked her to the movies, she was already busy.

[lincpimp]

Being nice and understanding will only lead this guy on. You might want to discuss this with her and point this out. He is obviously obsessed with her, does she know what that will lead to? She may find it flattering to have all of his attention, but what happens when she gets tired of it? After letting this go on for a while, telling him to quit will not work. This kind of BS has to be taken care of quickly and decisively.

Plus you can let her know that you find the entire situation unacceptable and that it directly conflicts with your belief system of how a relationship is conducted. Put your foot down, you do wear the pants, remember! No need to be mean, or nasty, just make sure you are firm and stick to your principles.

And if she does not want to do anything, you may want to consider finding someone else. It is obvious what your "friend" is trying to do. This guy really sounds desperate, maybe there is something wrong with him mentally? You might try having him committed, if only for analysis!

[lincpimp]

For what it is worth, I do know a bunch of marines in San Diego. You could accidentally PM me his address and a pic. Voila, no more aggravation. And the marines will only want beer...