Random question about friends and girls.

[MTBikerTim]

Originally Posted by Sower

BP-Revo . . . if I were you I would really watch this guy. Someone that doesn't get it with something like this - usually carries that same characteristic with other things. In other words, even if everything works out on this deal a guy like your "friend" will end up being trouble later. Not for sure, but that's been my experience. I stay away from people with poor judgement - too easy for them to drag me into a bad situation.

Sincerely,
Mike Tyson

I often quietly laugh to myself while reading this forum but not this time. Nice.

[crazyjr]

I agree, with the direct approach. Only i would talk to them together and make it a surprise (neither one knows till a few minutes before) then they can't plan and you get honest answers

On a side note, if it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be and there will be a better opportunity down the road.

[BP-Revo]

Well, he claims he isn't interested, just, being friendly. She's hasn't done anything with him, so I'm not really worried about that. Its just that he keeps trying. Its annoying if anything. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting or anything.

I already talked to her about and she said she also thought it would be a good idea to talk to him less. I just typed this on my iPod touch and it took me half an hour LOL. Back to class I suppose.

[Arct1k]

Set him up with her best friend and double date...

[BP-Revo]

Originally Posted by Arct1k

Set him up with her best friend and double date...

That's actually what we (her and I) did for prom. But instead of trying for her best friend, he still only asks her to do stuff.

Lincpimp, we are going steady right now, as far as I can tell. I've told her this and this is why she had agreed to kind of reduce the amount of contact with him.

[lincpimp]

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

That's actually what we (her and I) did for prom. But instead of trying for her best friend, he still only asks her to do stuff.

Lincpimp, we are going steady right now, as far as I can tell. I've told her this and this is why she had agreed to kind of reduce the amount of contact with him.

Sounds like a good idea, you seem to have him under control. Enjoy the "fringe benefits"!

[johnrobholmes]

He is probably trying to interact with the only woman who he can have contact with outside of school- your girl. Judging by the actions he has displayed so far I say it is time to move on to another friend. In the mean time it sounds like you have an awesome girl to hang out with too. If he really just wanted to be friends, he would be cool with hanging out as a group too.

[TexasSP]

Sounds like a score for you. If he doesn't back off, it's probably time for you to distance yourself from him. The closer you remain to him, the angrier you will get, and the more likely you will do something regrettable.

Always remember that while revenge makes good comic books and movies, it is always very bad for real life.

[lincpimp]

Hey BP, are you and the lady going out? Like going steady? Or are you just dating each other (in an open situation, so that you can date multiple people)?

If you are an "item" or whatever the term for going steady is these days then you should let her know that you find his actions as suspect that he wants to go out with her. Sometimes women can be blind to men's advances, and she may just see what he is doing as a form of friendship. Most likely he is trying to get some alone time with her to "woo" her. It sounds like it to me, unless he is gay.

[BrianG]

Hope everything turns out

A little off-topic, but it's really kinda funny the thread topics you see here. Everything from dating advice to computer troubleshooting.... and even the occasional BL question.

[Arct1k]

Can we have a Dear Monster section! Pass the geek tech questions here!

[BP-Revo]

Yeah we got some interesting topics going hahaha...and as for whoever mentioned something about not asking a bunch of guys who play with RC's all day, I'll admit I'd never ask this on any other forum, but most of the people here are a step above the average guy.

But yeah, I'm not worried about anything anymore. I think right now, if anything, I'm just annoyed that he keeps trying. Like today we were hanging out and in that time frame of about 2 hours she got like 4-5 texts from him.

Lincpimp, what do you mean by fringe benefits?

[BrianG]

We may "play" with R/Cs (although most of us don't do it all day), but the median age here is a little higher.

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

Lincpimp, what do you mean by fringe benefits?

You kidding? Just knowing linc, you should be able to answer that one!

[lincpimp]

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

Lincpimp, what do you mean by fringe benefits?

Don't worry, you will find out soon enough, if you play your cards right!

[BP-Revo]

Well, here is an update. Apparently since the beginning my "friend" has been trying to sabotage what her and I have. He has been twisting what I say and making stuff up and just telling her random anything to get her to stop seeing me. In any case, it hasn't worked, or at least it seems it hasn't. She was the one who told me that he was doing all this, and she too is angry at him for trying to do this. So I guess his true colors have been revealed, not a friend at the very least.

At least I now know to never lift my finger for him. I did a pathetic amount of things for him. I actually dragged him along on one of our dates because he had gotten high (weed) and I wasn't going to allow him to drive himself home in that condition, so I dragged him along with her and I to the beach, dinner, etc. Furthermore, I took him to the Long Beach Grand Prix. These tickets were in the thousand dollar range as they were pit row suite tickets, had full garage and pit access, and included a pace car ride. And while I was doing all this stuff (and more) for him, he was still trying to sabotage her and I.

I am actually somewhat glad this happened, as I now know the kind of person he really is and it also showed that despite all his BS she still stayed there and payed attention to what I said and did.