Random question about friends and girls.

[TexasSP]

Sounds like a score for you. If he doesn't back off, it's probably time for you to distance yourself from him. The closer you remain to him, the angrier you will get, and the more likely you will do something regrettable.

Always remember that while revenge makes good comic books and movies, it is always very bad for real life.

[lincpimp]

Hey BP, are you and the lady going out? Like going steady? Or are you just dating each other (in an open situation, so that you can date multiple people)?

If you are an "item" or whatever the term for going steady is these days then you should let her know that you find his actions as suspect that he wants to go out with her. Sometimes women can be blind to men's advances, and she may just see what he is doing as a form of friendship. Most likely he is trying to get some alone time with her to "woo" her. It sounds like it to me, unless he is gay.

[BP-Revo]

Originally Posted by Arct1k

Set him up with her best friend and double date...

That's actually what we (her and I) did for prom. But instead of trying for her best friend, he still only asks her to do stuff.

Lincpimp, we are going steady right now, as far as I can tell. I've told her this and this is why she had agreed to kind of reduce the amount of contact with him.

[BrianG]

Hope everything turns out

A little off-topic, but it's really kinda funny the thread topics you see here. Everything from dating advice to computer troubleshooting.... and even the occasional BL question.

[Arct1k]

Can we have a Dear Monster section! Pass the geek tech questions here!

[lincpimp]

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

That's actually what we (her and I) did for prom. But instead of trying for her best friend, he still only asks her to do stuff.

Lincpimp, we are going steady right now, as far as I can tell. I've told her this and this is why she had agreed to kind of reduce the amount of contact with him.

Sounds like a good idea, you seem to have him under control. Enjoy the "fringe benefits"!

[johnrobholmes]

He is probably trying to interact with the only woman who he can have contact with outside of school- your girl. Judging by the actions he has displayed so far I say it is time to move on to another friend. In the mean time it sounds like you have an awesome girl to hang out with too. If he really just wanted to be friends, he would be cool with hanging out as a group too.

[BP-Revo]

Yeah we got some interesting topics going hahaha...and as for whoever mentioned something about not asking a bunch of guys who play with RC's all day, I'll admit I'd never ask this on any other forum, but most of the people here are a step above the average guy.

But yeah, I'm not worried about anything anymore. I think right now, if anything, I'm just annoyed that he keeps trying. Like today we were hanging out and in that time frame of about 2 hours she got like 4-5 texts from him.

Lincpimp, what do you mean by fringe benefits?

[BrianG]

We may "play" with R/Cs (although most of us don't do it all day), but the median age here is a little higher.

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

Lincpimp, what do you mean by fringe benefits?

You kidding? Just knowing linc, you should be able to answer that one!

[ICUBoy]

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Originally Posted by tashpop;

lots of advise here, wow i'm surprised.

my first suggestion would have been to say don't ask a bunch of guys that play with rc cars about girls............lol.

Excellent thinking tashpop!

Originally Posted by lincpimp

Yes, you are right, he should have hit up the flashlight lover's forum first...

No lincpimp the flashlight forum is for lathe advice! Maybe SHE would like a lathe?!?!?

WOW some really sensible suggestions from all kinds of bods here- I must say violence as suggested by some is really NOT a good idea.

[lincpimp]

Originally Posted by BP-Revo

Lincpimp, what do you mean by fringe benefits?

Don't worry, you will find out soon enough, if you play your cards right!

[Hickoryhead]

Originally Posted by lincpimp

Yes, you are right, he should have hit up the flashlight lover's forum first...

Or he could have tried a muppet forum. Either way Linc would have responded

[Sower]

BP-Revo . . . if I were you I would really watch this guy. Someone that doesn't get it with something like this - usually carries that same characteristic with other things. In other words, even if everything works out on this deal a guy like your "friend" will end up being trouble later. Not for sure, but that's been my experience. I stay away from people with poor judgement - too easy for them to drag me into a bad situation.

Sincerely,
Mike Tyson

[MTBikerTim]

Originally Posted by Sower

BP-Revo . . . if I were you I would really watch this guy. Someone that doesn't get it with something like this - usually carries that same characteristic with other things. In other words, even if everything works out on this deal a guy like your "friend" will end up being trouble later. Not for sure, but that's been my experience. I stay away from people with poor judgement - too easy for them to drag me into a bad situation.

Sincerely,
Mike Tyson

I often quietly laugh to myself while reading this forum but not this time. Nice.

[JERRY2KONE]

Are you kidding me. How many of you guys watch the UFC fights? Don't tell me that we don't like violence. If he gives you any more crap just ask linc to send over a couple of his "Butler Monkies" to take care of the situation. Just kidding. Violence is never a good way to handle personal situations. Like it was stated most of the guys on here are a little bit older and give good advice for these kinds of situations. A show of force is sometimes needed, but usually only as a last resort when all else has failed. For the most part the intellectual approach is always more productive. Besides your first concern should be her position in all of this. As long as your relationship with her is in the right place, then she can handle him on her own, unless she asks you for assistance with the matter. She also needs to know that you trust her for her own self esteem. Women never like it when men interfere like they are too weak to take care of themselves. On the other hand if you approach your friend with communications about this and he plays it off, then he is only trying to get your goat and rall you up for his own entertainment.