my ignorance has led me into a situation.

[rootar]

Well me being the thoughtful guy i am i wanted to get the girly something nice for christmas, we've ben together for 6 years and living together for 2 now. After much thought on either a video camera, new camera lense, or somthing of that nature i some how ended up buying a diamond ring.

So how my ignorance has played into this was that i was thinking she needed something to go with the diamond earings and necklace i got for her a couple years ago. I was looking and didn't really see any bracelets that would match or that she would even wear that often, then i saw this ring that was just awesome, looked perfect to match the other diamonds and fit her perfectly. So, i bought it, knowing nothing about rings and jewlery come to find out this an engagement ring.

Now how do i give this to her with out it being wierd. We agreed to wait a couple more years to get married, So far im thinking "Here, im not asking but this means im going to ask eventually" anybody have any ideas?

[rootar]

freeze nobody asked for pics of your old lady......



lol, jk

[What's_nitro?]

What exactly makes it an "engagement" ring? I don't understand it either... It's a circle of metal with a rock crimped on top...

I would just give it to her and pretend you had absolutely no idea if she mentions anything along those lines.

[simplechamp]

Too late to take it back and get something else? Maybe a ring that is more clearly not an engagement ring?

[josh9mille]

Take it back immediately! Or keep it, but dont give it to her for another 2yrs when you pop the question. Any gold circular item with a diamond attatched to it will be construed as a wedding ring wether it was meant to be one or not lol. But remember, studies have shown that marriage is the #1 cause of divorce!

All kidding aside, congrats on the eventual engagement

[JERRY2KONE]

OK so here is my take on the matter. Look you have even admitted to us that you plan on getting married in a couple of years, right? So whats the big deal? By giving her the ring and asking her to marry you, all you are doing is setting up for the big day. Some engagements last several years, and either of you can end it at any time if desired. If you already have plans on getting married then why not get engaged. All that does is let everyone else know what you two already do. Your both commited to this relationship and plan to make it legal at some point. What are you afraid of? The only thing you are putting on the line by giving her the ring now is that you spent the money on the ring and you have no right to get it back unless she backs out of the marriage. You still have the inate ability to call it off if you get cold feet, or find yourself embroiled in an affair along the way with another potential wife. I think your making too much out of giving her the ring.

[Bondonutz]

I say sack up and give it to her, I'm sure you'll make her very happy with it. If the question comes up about "when", just fall back on the wait 2 more year conversation.

Congrats !

grow a pair and get engaged man! Like what was said before,just stay engaged for the 2yrs before your married. And congrats on the probable marriage!--Josh

[lincpimp]

Well, if you want to get engaged go for it. Outherwise do not give her the ring. My friend got a promise ring from a guy who said he would marry her and it all went downhill from there...

I was engaged for 14months, and did get married and I view it as a good thing. But you have lived together for a while now so you should be familiar with each other. On the other hand more commitment does change things, and marriage changes things alot. Difficult decision dude, good luck.

If you like her pop the question, if you are still making up your mind keep the ring and buy her something else, like a chainsaw or something you can use.

Oh yeah, how old are you? Early 20s IIRC?

[rootar]

I'm gonna get a nicer engagement than this when i ask, I guess I'll find a way to give it to her. She is not expecting anything so that shoud make it easier.

Yea we've been living together for a couple years, (which is great) definetly no regrets which just seals the deal even more. But i'm not gonna ask until this summer or fall, just bad timing right now, prolly on my vacation this summer.

yes james early 20s, Im graduatiing college for the 2nd time soon, and she will be working on her phd this year. So we aren't in a big hurry.

[Arct1k]

Just do it already... 2 year+ engagement isn't unusual- Worst case you are out a ring which you are giving her anyway....


A diamond solitaire is an engagement ring - either change it or man up...

[padrino]

Based on your post go for it..

I was engaged for about 4 years before we actually were married, an engagement isn't a pressure situation, just a meaningful commitment and since you've already had the conversation then this just makes it a little more real.

[lincpimp]

Here is a much better gift idea:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhwbxEfy7fg

Haha, the guy from lonely island,awesome!--Josh